Kay’s Journal: Internal vs. External Structure

Here’s what I’m writing about in my journal this week!

JV icon K JournalLive from my therapy office! It’s another edition of Coffee with Kay. This week I share with you an observation I made in my first 30 days of this coaching program: Given a choice of self-sabotage or surrender…. my impulse is to self-sabotage! Ouch.

Tell us about something you might surrender, or surrender to, in the comments below.

Hey, did you know we’ve added a Coffeehouse Community Writes area where you can respond to a prompt and engage with other members? Check it out HERE.

4 Responses to Kay’s Journal: Internal vs. External Structure

  1. Linda Barnes August 30, 2017 at 1:39 pm #

    Kay, once again I applaud your openness about your own process, and certainly identify with you as one who is very oppositional when confronted by outside “authority” over my creative goals and the way I approach them.

    Your “surrender” prompt opens up new channels forward.

    • Kay Adams September 8, 2017 at 8:08 am #

      Wow, Linda, you just named something for me — “creative goals” — it’s true — I’m very protective of my creative process. The (fortunate) paradox, though, is that it’s one more demonstration of the dynamic between freedom and structure, which is a constant source of fascination for me. It was that paradigm (freedom v. structure) that inspired the Journal Ladder, the Curriculum Design class, and so much else of my work. So why am I surprised that it shows up here again? Beats me, but I’m now officially on the other side of it and already reaping the rewards. Once I surrendered, things accelerated tremendously and I have moved into actual “doingness” — I think I need to write a blog about this!

  2. Katherine Cox Stevenson August 31, 2017 at 2:03 pm #

    Love Coffee with Kay. Gorgeous hair cut by the way. 🙂 Good for you for being open to the coaching process and thanks for sharing with us. For me, I have wanted to write a non academic book since childhood. I have been working on a memoir off and on for a couple of years and basically not getting anywhere. Lately I have been wondering if I am going to be on my death bed saying, “Darn I didn’t write that book.” Time for big action. A couple of weeks ago signed up for a 1:1 mentorship for an intensive three months. I am totally surrendering to my mentor’s expertise and doing all she requests of me. I trust her. I have to give my memoir this full focus and either write it or abandon the idea. I am going to write it. Can I please use your surrender prompt for my Journaling for Health group Kay when we meet end of September?

    • Kay Adams September 8, 2017 at 8:18 am #

      Katherine, sorry to be just now seeing this, a week later. Gotta get my notification settings adjusted! Thanks for liking my hair; I’ll pass that on to Laurel, who is not only my recently discovered hairdresser but the convener of a writing critique group she invited me to. Thanks to her, I’m back to my long-moldering novel! I am THRILLED!!! that you are working with a mentor and you’ve got my full support. My favorite memoir book is Judith Barrington’s “Writing the Memoir: From Truth to Art” — it’s what I use as a text when I teach memoir. Our JV buddy Linda Joy Myers’ “Power of Memoir” is also a favorite. Of course you can use the surrender prompt. All members can use any prompts for any ethical professional or personal use–they’re like wildflower seeds–spread them around! If they come from Journalverse, please mention that. If they come from a specific source (e.g. one of our speakers, a book, etc.) please mention that as well because they deserve the recognition!

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